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Where would we all be without sisters? If I actually had any siblings, which I don't, I would imagine this to be one of my better memories of a sisterly moment. I actually was just having a text conversation with a good friend of mine that I relate to as a close sister and how it's so special to have a deep connection with someone. A lot of times people think that their husbands are meant to be that "special friend" or best friend. But there are some things that you can only really share with another girl or in some cases with another mom. The island of motherhood can be really challenging and tiresome and how can anyone really survive without a true comrade? I am not referring to a friend who you talk to about dinners and shopping for kids' clothes and other stuff. I mean those kinds of friends are really important too. But for a long while I expected those kinds of friends to also fulfill the need for a deeper relationship.
After trial and error and I guess you could say a lot of error, I came to realize that we have to have friends for different things. There are the shopping friends, the playdate friends, the dinner talk friends, the Shabbos invitation friends, and then if you are blessed, there are the deep talk friends that you can pick up where you left off and hang out with. Gosh, even within that last category, there are different levels. It obviously depends on how open you are to the sharing a deep relationship with someone else. Making yourself vulnerable to them, trusting them to listen and empathize and know when you need a gentle push but at the same time, know when you just need a good listener.
I can't say I am always so quick to reach out to my sisterly friends, since it's not a natural thing for me but when they are there for me, I am reminded of their importance in my life and hopefully my importance in theirs.
Let's always remember to be there for our fellow moms, whether they are the more superficial relationships in our lives, which are also very important, or the deeper relationships, as they say "it takes a village" and we could all use a little more of that village mentality.