But there is also the possibility that these things are part of her nature and inborn tendencies.
Either way, as her parents, it's our job to recognize these things in her and help guide her to channel her mind and harness these traits. I am all for that and believe strongly that she will be able to conquer and overcome these challenges. The problem that arises though is how I am going to be able to help her. I still have these issues myself. Whenever I turn to correct her I think of what a hypocrite I am. On top of that, how can I possibly help her when not only don't I know how to help myself and therefore don't know how to explain to her about how to change, but I don't even know if I'm ready to change. It saps my energy to have this constant inner dialogue while trying to figure out how to help my daughter get through a particular moment or exchange.
On a more positive and yet equally honest note, being that she has these traits and tendencies at this age, is amazing because it shows how much potential and strength she has and how powerful of a personality she is. With the right attention and care, what an amazing person she is destined to become (and already is!)
I don't want to take these thoughts to become one of those stressed out parents with unrealistic expectations of my kids but being open and real about these challenges is always the first step to getting on the right track to creating an open relationship with ourselves and our kids which is always the best thing for everyone involved.